Being good at doing anything takes a lot of work b…

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When I retired about five years ago, I had this deep craving to like start another business or do something big. And I told myself, you're not going to start another business or do anything big until you can explain to yourself why you want to do that. What's driving that? And I'll be honest with you, I never got there. I have some pieces. I have a bunch of sort of disjointed pieces of theories about why I so desperately feel the need to start a business or do some big thing. But there is something I accomplished, which is better than that. And that's by making myself wait, by holding off on taking that job or starting that business, I got to a place where I'm truly happy doing nothing. And a bunch of people said like, well, if you don't get busy, if you don't stay busy and retire, you'll just fade away. You know, your health will go downhill. That's not the case with me. I'm healthier now than I ever was in my thirties. I'm emotionally happier than I've ever been in my thirties to have a lot of work to do on that. But, um, I can tell you that doing nothing has been better for me than anything else I ever tried in life, but I had to give it a chance. And people told me on here, they're like, it's going to be five years until you're really, really, really good at it. And I said, well, I'm going to do it. And I said, really comfortable being retired. And it's true. It has been, it took three years to even get to a place where I didn't have like the jitters from like not getting up and going to work. It takes a long time to get good at anything. And it takes a long time to get good at retiring. To my mind, being good at retiring is being good at having zero demands on your time. And that's a, that's a huge shift for people who have had demands on their time their entire life. And there's going to be people who say, I'm never going to be happy doing nothing. And to those people, I say, then you're probably right. There are people I know, people who've asked me, like, how do you think I'll do in retirement? And I'll say, I think you're going to work until you die in the traces. And it's the closest to happiness that you'll get. And I don't say that in a critical way. It just, we all have our limitations. Some people retire and go right into super chill, casual retirement mode. They don't have any problem whatsoever. Some people like me struggle with it, but fight the good fight and get to a place where they can relax and just be happy being alive. And then other people can never get there. They just can't get to a place where they can be happy and content just being alive. And I don't criticize any of these people. I'm the middle one. And, uh, and it was honestly, you know, I, I struggle to use the word work, but it was a lot of work to get to a place where I could be truly happy and content doing nothing. But I am thrilled that I hung in there and I put in the work. And I got to a place where I could just live and not feel like I'm somehow letting the world down by not renting my time out to someone else. Good luck with your retirement.