As I approach rounding the third year of my retire…

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If you're an entrepreneur or just a really hard worker or someone who's like very driven, you may look forward to retirement in a not so positive light. You might think, I'm not a person who's going to just relax all day. I'm not a person who can't be busy. I'm the kind of person. And you just have this sort of list of statements like that about yourself. But you have to ask yourself, but what if I'm wrong? What if that's not who I am? It's just what I do. And, you know, I started documenting my retirement journey from practically day one here on the platform. And I'm almost to year three. Next month will be my third year of retirement. And the first year of my retirement, I kept reinforcing my beliefs that I'm a person that needs to be working. I'm a person that needs to be solving problems. I'm a person that needs to be busy, etc. And I asked myself, what if I'm wrong? What if that's not who I am? What if it's just what I've done all these years? And I told myself I wasn't going to go back to work until I could answer the question. I've done plenty of videos on this subject. That was just a little bit of background. Here I am at year three. And I'll tell you what it feels like. To. Realize that I was wrong. And that I am a person who likes to relax. I am a person who doesn't need to be solving problems and putting out fires every day. It's a little bit like, you know how when you're mad about something and you want to say a thing. So like you're maybe you're arguing with your partner or whomever. And or you're or you're frustrated with your partner and you want to say something. Maybe even something kind of mean. And you say to yourself, don't do it, bro. You're just going to end up apologizing for it. Just, you know, avoid the rush and don't do it at all. And but then you say to yourself, no, no, this needs to be said. This this is one of those rare times that I need to say it. I'm genuinely going to have to address this. And then hopefully you say to yourself, no, that's just what it feels like. When you're in the moment, it's all part of it. Just wait it out. And then you do wait it out. And then, like, even a couple of hours later, you're like, and I'm glad I didn't say that. And then a couple of days later, you're like, why would I have even wanted to say that? And then two weeks or three weeks later, you're like, what was even behind the desire to even get frustrated about that? And, you know, with enough time. You know, you're like, I'm going to do it. You have the sort of context. And you look back and you're like, that was nothing. That was just a little teeny tiny blip on the radar. Why was I going to let that become such a thing? That's what it's been like for me for retirement. As I approach year three, I'm looking back to that first year where I was like, oh, God, I'm not going to be able to just not work. I'm not. It's like how I felt. How I feel when I'm. Frustrated. And I want to, like, say or do a thing impulsively. And I wait. Now that I'm coming up into year three. I'm looking back at that first year. And if it wasn't for all the videos I created, I don't know that I could believe how hard I struggled with relaxing. It's like almost like a dream. Look back and I'm like, why was I so wound up about that? Like, this is awesome. This is way better than, you know, struggling and meetings and putting up with, you know, personalities that I don't, you know, mesh well with and just all the things that go into to working. And don't get me wrong. I loved my job. I loved my business. I love the people I work with. But we all know it's not always great. And this isn't the season for that anymore. It's not. And yeah, like I've called it. I said before, I could. I could have a sequel to my work life in my retirement. But we all know that sequel suck. Like, it's a very rare that you're going to produce a sequel. That's really worthy of the effort that goes into it. So I'm glad I didn't produce work life 2.0. The workening and just start over again and never get to the place where I'm not going to be able to do it. And never get to the place where I realized that I was going to move past those feelings about needing to work. It'd be a little bit like going back to my, you know, getting frustrated analogy. If you just didn't let yourself get unfrustrated and you know, you get mad and you say a bad thing and then that leads you to be frustrated that you said the thing. So you get mad at yourself and then you start an argument and then that argument leads to a falling out. And you feel like you need to feed into the falling out state because you're right and they're wrong. That's what I think it would be like if I had gone back to work. I would have just been perpetuating that frustrated state instead of putting some space in there and calming down gaining some context and saying, oh, I was just wound up about working because that's what I was doing. I didn't need to keep doing that. This is awesome. I'm going to do it. Thank you.