Solving the problem of lack of engagement or listl…

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Why don't people who are bored in retirement just go volunteer? I hear this question in my comments all the time, and it's a legitimate question, but it's sort of a question that's born out of a lack of understanding of what's going on with the retired person in that moment. If you're a person who doesn't experience boredom or doesn't experience that feeling of being disengaged, it's difficult to understand what it would mean for someone who is in that situation. A lot of people say in my comments, I've never been bored, I've been busier in my retirement, etc., etc. And so they may not be able to relate to someone who's experiencing this in retirement. And I can tell you from my experience, when I hear someone say, well, if you're feeling bored or listless or disengaged in retirement, just go volunteer, you know, go help someone. And when I hear that, my first thought is, I don't want to do that. I'd rather be bored than do that. And I think that's kind of the key is when people are talking about feeling disengaged or bored in retirement, they're not saying, I would rather be doing anything than feeling this way. They're saying, I would like to be doing something better than feeling this way. And oftentimes, volunteering doesn't scratch that itch. So they're looking for something that's better than feeling listless, disengaged and bored. Not just anything else to do. And if you're looking for a way to relate to that feeling, imagine that you're sitting around, say, on the weekend, and you're just feeling like, man, I wish I was doing something fun. I wish I was doing something that engaged me. And someone said, you should go scrub the grout on the tile. It could really use a grout. It could scrub it. And let's just imagine that you don't enjoy that. That's kind of like what it's like when, when a lot of people, myself included, talk about being, feeling disengaged, a little listless. And someone says, go volunteer. And we're like, I don't want to do that. I'm literally looking for something I want to do, not just anything other than being bored. So I don't know if this helps, helps you to relate at all. It's definitely something that I experienced and I don't, at all mind when people say it, because we're all just looking for ideas. What I really am trying to do in this video is explain why it often doesn't scratch the itch for retirees. It's good. And it's nice to make the suggestions because a lot of times retirees are just looking for ideas, but don't be disappointed if the idea doesn't take, because maybe it's just not a thing. That's going to help them. .