Your retirement was never intended to be your last…

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Chores don't count as retirement activities. When I first retired, I thought, well, this is my opportunity to do all the things around the house that I always felt like needed done, but I just didn't have time to do them. I had time to do them. I just didn't want to do them. I always had time, like I could have found time. I mean, I can't tell you how many TV series I binged through when I was working. I could have just not binged one and done tons of those activities around the house. Most of the stuff that we didn't want to do when we were working, we're not going to want to do when we retire. I don't really like doing little tasks around the house. I still do them from time to time because they need done, but it's not going to become my retirement identity. That's just not going to happen. And I was super lucky. Not everybody's going to be this lucky. But my wife is not someone who's going to presume that she can just give me honeydew stuff because I'm retired. And that's been a massive help because the only person I've had really pressuring me is me. I know a lot of people have a partner when they're, especially when one's retired and the other isn't, that will sometimes even out of a sort of a misguided attempt to help them. They'll give them. Little honeydew tasks to quote unquote, keep them busy. That would not have worked with me. It would have frustrated me primarily because of a couple of other things that I have going on as far as like pathological demand avoidance and executive dysfunction, things like that. I just would never, I would never appreciate that. And it would just pile on to the, to the stress. So just keep in mind that when you retire, A, you're not going to do all of those things that have been sitting around while you weren't retired. And B, don't let your retirement become the worst job you ever had. Learn to retire and just relax.